Friday, 31 May 2013

"God.....are you there?"

A question I find circumstance leads me to ask often is "God, are you there?"

~ When my health takes a nosedive ~ "God, are you there?"
~ When one of my children has a tough day at school ~ "God, are you there?"
~ When my husband has to work yet another weekend, meaning it's me and the children doing it
    'alone' ~ "God, are you there?"
~ When my mum has her umpteenth hospital appointment because once again this medicine isn't
    working well ~ "God, are you there?"
~ When the house we thought was going to be ours, sells to another family ~ "God, are you there?"
~ When relationships go through stale patches ~ "God, are you there?"
~ When I feel insecure, scared, let down, sad, tired, useless, overwhelmed ~ "God, are you there?"

And when I often find myself asking this question, I scurry like a squirrel to seek out the scripture or song or message that will give me the answer I so need...
Today, I needed to have time to scurry....to search....to find my answer....and thankfully I did.

In the form of this scripture:- Deuteronomy 31:8 "The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you, nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."


Today, I had it once again confirmed in my heart, that God isn't just 'there,' God is very much 'here!'

Nothing in this life is guaranteed, except one thing...God is always with us, and when we understand who He is and what He has already done for us through His precious son Jesus Christ, our doubts disappear!

No matter what my day throws at me....whether I live in "that house" or the next....no matter if I'm the subject of a gossipy conversation....who cares if my derrière doesn't squeeze into those size 12's as yet....regardless of what the blood results look like on paper....my Jesus conquered it all on the cross...and He didn't do all that lightly and half heartedly....He done it my friend, so that I...you...we would grasp the love that God has for us and live a life of not scurrying....but resting....resting in the beautiful truths that reign over our existences.

Oh Lord God....I barely have had time to process today...let alone consider what tomorrow looks like...but your word tells me not to worry about tomorrow (Matthew 6:34) and so I won't...I choose right now to rest in knowing you are there already...moulding it into what you want it to look like for me....but more importantly I choose to rest in knowing that you are here in this very moment and you don't have any agenda other than to wrap me in your warm embrace and be the answer to my, asked probably too often question!

Psalm 145:18 "The Lord is near to all who call on Him; to all who call on Him in truth!"

Be blessed :-)








Thursday, 16 May 2013

Woman to woman....Friend to friend!

I haven't wrote a post in my blog for a few weeks now...granted its been a very busy few weeks for me...a time where God has changed a few things around in my life...all for the good may I add...but this has meant I haven't really tuned in to writing about anything. My style is to write when I feel prompted to, so I've rested in knowing when the time is right, words will come....I think I have a few words to spill today.....

I think I may have spoken about friendship and the roles we as woman can play in other females lives before in my blog. It's something close to my heart as I have had the privilege to mentor and be-friend some beautiful 'sisters' this last few years....but too have been nurtured and loved by some amazingly wise and caring ladies who have given their time to see me flourish.
One thing I have definitely learnt though is that a mentoring relationship is very different to that of a friendship relationship. Before anyone corrects me in pointing out that a mentor can indeed and surely is a type of friend...the direction I'm coming from is that a mentoring relationship has a specific purpose...one person being available to teach, share, (if  you do..) pray with and listen to someone who needs that guidance.
A true, "I've chosen you as my friend to do life with" friendship is quite different. Both people (should) do all the above, but at the same time emotions become more involved....vulnerability is there, on the table...dreams, aspirations, fall outs, children, partners meeting, nights outs, shopping trips, failures, all shared....but with no other reason than this person has chosen you to open up themselves too.

I myself have been hurt in what I thought were solid friendships....it's very hard to move forward when you have been betrayed and in a way dumped by someone you allowed the privilege of knowing your heart to.
I feel it's safe to say we live in a world where women are still viewed as the second class citizen in many situations. And for that reason alone, I really struggle with understanding why some women, instead of uniting and supporting one another, feel it's okay to belittle, betray, gossip about and humiliate their fellow 'sisters!'
Because, that's how we should view each other...in a world where women are violated, stopped from furthering their education, hindered from fulfilling their dreams, ignored, humiliated, bitched about, made to feel insecure by media and false representations of what we should be...we, us everyday girls should be uniting in uplifting the females around us.
And please, don't think here this means I'm stating that I love everyone, I get on with everyone, I'm best friends with everyone, I go for coffee dates with every woman I encounter....because I don't. Mainly because this would be quite difficult to do time wise, but also because I believe God puts the people we should invest time in, into our lives and gives us wisdom in the role we play.....I know God has given me the gift of being relational...being available to listen, encourage and stand along side other women. I try my best to be kind, generous and caring to all the people I meet....but of course I don't gel with everyone.....but how I handle this determines how my heart continues to grow towards others. Do I go out of my way to gossip about, or be nasty to people I don't really consider friends? No...why would I? Do I try and stop them from being all that God has called them to be and discourage them...No....why would I?

I don't really know why these words have spilled....I don't know who they are meant to speak to....but I do know I want to encourage you...and myself...here in this moment, that we have a vital role to play in the lives of those around us. Woman to woman...friend to friend....I yearn for a community of strong, kind, loving and nurturing women. I spent 3 days at a woman's conference recently. Thousands of women together...praying together, worshiping together, crying together, hoping together....I so wanted to stay in that bubble of an environment....but I grasped it with both hands, held onto it, and made the decision I would bring it back home with me...in me...to share...
Lets not be known for being the person to shatter another girls dreams because we're jealous...insecure that it means we won't progress on our journey...girls, that's a lie....no one can hinder the route your on....except yourself..! Lets not be known as the woman who isn't generous, doesn't speak kindly of others....lets be the ones to make a change in a world that wants us fail one another.
Be kind.....Smile....Slow to judge, quick to say hello.... Encourage-even at the times when we need encouragement ourselves....if you use social media, be inviting in your posts.....be real of course.... but don't say one thing and do another.....don't seclude people because they don't fit your idea of perfect....
Just try and be the very nice you that you can be....and that means me too Stacey Omokaro!

Be Blessed....and enjoy being and having lovely friends! Friends really do make the world go round :)